One couple’s adventures in matrimony
So I spent a good part of my monday off looking for a shirt and tie. We needed to find a tie and square that match Martina's dress for the shower. A proper bow tie for the wedding and shirt to go with them. We walked all over down town visiting various shirt and tie places throughout the path. The shower tie and square weren't too bad. Basically a matter of matching colour and funk level. Thanks to the good people at Harry Rosen's the neck accouterments were easy. The shirt, thats another story.
Most of the problem has been finding a shirt because I have a very specific look in mind. I want the Gaius f-ing Baltar shirt. I want a shirt with a collar that will stand properly when unbuttoned. But I need the shirt to be french cuffed and holed for shirt studs. That makes it quite a bit trickier. I found lots of shirts for shirt studs, and I found lots of shirts with the right collar, but never together. Many of the companies make the shirt I want, just nobody carries it. I tried Harry's, I tried Holt, I tried a half dozen tie shirt places in the PATH. Nadda.
Finally I went home (specifically to Sandra and Christians) and searched the web for custom shirt makers in Toronto. I have an appointment with one this week. A good shirt costs anywhere from $160-190. A designer shirt $250-500. So instead of ordering the shirt I want in, hoping it lays how I want, and getting it altered to fit better. I can get a bespoke shirt for around $250. They'll make it to measure and it'll be half the price of the Armani Shirt I looked at. And it'll be perfect. No more wasting time.
As I said above I got myself a proper bow tie. I figure I'm a grown man, I can tie my own bow tie. Everyone I've talked to about using a proper tie has said how hard it is to tie. Well I tried tying it and here is attempt number two.
I don't know what the fuss is about, but that was my second attempt. Sure its not perfect, but I still have over two months to figure it.
Okay maybe I'm being too picky about things like shirts and ties and suits and shoes and rings and wedding stuff in general. But the wedding is actually a chance for me to be picky (I prefer the term specific). Anyone who knows me, knows I'm pretty easy going. Sure I can be picky, but I never argue the point. If I can't get the thing I want with minimal to moderate effort, I let it slide. I don't care THAT much. But with the wedding its my chance to do things my way. No half assed attempts. If I'm doing this once, I'm doing it right, the way I've always thought it should be done.Deal with it.
We have had a busy two weeks going to wedding rehearsals, showers and the actual "I DOs" in which Rick visited Aurora 3 times in 4 days. It started out with Rick attending Luke and Jen's rehearsal dinner in Aurora so he could get to know everyone before the big event where he was the photographer. The next day was Ewa and Wojtek's hilarious bachelor/bachelorette party. I wish we could have stayed longer for that one.
The next day Rick went up to Aurora again for Luke's family pictures. That afternoon Luke and Jen got married in a beautifully romantic ceremony by the Lake. Jen looked gorgeous in an amazing dress; Luke was handsome in his tux; and the reception had tonnes of great little personal and fun touches. Rick was behind the camera so we haven't found a picture of us yet.
The weekend continues on Sunday afternoon when we attended Ewa's Wedding Shower in Aurora.
In usual polish style there was lots of great food and lots of yummy treats. The cutest part was when we had to strain to see Ewa behind a mountain of gifts.
A week later was the wedding completely in Polish. Needless to say I couldn't understand a word but it looked wonderfully touching. It was a very small wedding less than 40 people in attendance and like nothing I've ever experienced. It was great to have time and quiet enough to talk to the people around you while eating mountains of food. An amazing 7 course meal, very polish. With such a small group you could also easily demand the bride and grooms attention. I think the amount of time that Ewa and Wojtek got to spend with each guest is what every bride and groom would wish for but can't do because of the 100+ people in attendance.
We had a great time.
So we printed our invites the other day. It was a bit of an ordeal. First the paper guy wouldn't return our calls, then the paper we wanted wouldn't be available for a week so we had to do a last minute change to the stock.
Getting it on press wasn't too bad once we had the paper. I showed up a 4:30 when the job was just going on press. We printed the first side with out much problem, a little bit of adjustment to the ink density, but thats it. It took 30 minutes to print that side. A quick plate change to do the backs and we started running "make-readys." basically running paper through the press to make sure the ink is running evenly and its lining up to the previously printed side. That side took two hours. TWO HOURS! Four times as long as the other side. The ink was just too dense, it looked like the wrong colour. so 3 hours to run 100 sheets. For those of you not in the print industry, thats insane. The half hour side one is what side two should have taken. On top of that the press room was about 45°. So I was sweating and drinking and sweating and drinking. Anyway the press-man was awesome. Printing is a science, not an art so its a lot of nudge and see. Thank You Trade Secrets
Rick's Mom Ela is great; a while ago she told us she wanted to throw us a wedding shower. Specifically she says to be able to celebrate with anyone we can't invite to the wedding because of reception size limits. So it won't be the usual, a group of women gathered together to have lunch and cake, play games and watch presents be opened (though I love those kind of showers too, but that's bridesmaid territory). She was thinking couples and singles would be invited to a dinner/dance. We happily agreed. Well the plans are being set and it's going to be a grand event on July 19th. Rick is calling it our 'Big Fat Polish Wedding Shower' as it will be held at the Albion Street Polish Hall in Brantford, there will be a polka band, open bar and the guest list is very long. We're looking forward to it. Invites will go out soon. Now I just need to find a party dress.
finally after five months of searching a beautiful victorian three bedroom is ours.
Picking out bridesmaids dresses was the most fun. On a thursday just Holly and I went to Rainbow Bridal in Hamilton to take a look and they had a lot of dresses we liked. The funny part was that in the change room next to us the ladies were also searching for bridesmaid dresses and everytime I came out to model a dress they loved it too and had to try it on after me. Since we were taking tonnes of pictures this worked out to our advantage because I could stand beside the very nice woman in a gown I liked and see how different gowns went together. How lucky is that? We narrowed it down to 5 after hours of discussion. The next Saturday Amy, Renata and Rick's mom Ela came out to try on the 5 we selected. Again after hours of discussing I picked one that I thought would look good on everyone and decided to alternate the colours. But which colour? On Sunday Holly went back with me to order her dress and I managed to get a swatch of the colour take it outside and look at it to be sure it was what I wanted. Yes I'm a perfectionist about this stuff and agonize over every detail.
Next came the flowers. I've never known an industry to have such conflicting information. Yes we can get tulips in September. No we can't get tulips in September. Yes we can get tulips but we can't say whether they will be fuchsia or pale pink. Hydrangeas will wilt for sure if they are not in a holder. Hydrangeas will wilt if they are not hand tied and kept in water. Hydrangeas will not wilt at all if they are high quality. Who am I suppose to believe? I'm still negotiating with the florist I chose. Who knew flowers would be the hardest part.
Rick had much better luck picking out the tuxes. He and all the guys are going to look very James Bond like. Now he just needs to find a bow tie (everything provided at the shop is clip on) and a shirt.
We've also had the Sheraton Hamilton set aside a block of rooms if anyone wants to stay the night. You can book rooms online by going to
It was the most logical choice as it is directly (I'm talking linked with a bridge) across the street from the Art Gallery of Hamilton. So you can just stagger across the street and up to your room hopefully without falling.....well the night will be open bar you know and we want everyone to have a blast.
Speaking of having a blast, Amy has booked my bachelorette party weekend at her family cottage! It's going to be so much fun! I've been going there every year since I was in my early twenties, it's awesome and Amy's family has been great in allowing me to rent it myself these past few years.
Right now I have to think about invites, guest lists, rings and other accessories.
Well we spent this weekend scouting locations for our photos. We hit the RBG rock garden, Whitehern and the Steam Museum. The museum was the coolest but they won't let do any commercial photography inside. "Screw them," I say. Whitehern it is. Less walking, more architecture and closer. We also found ourselves a minister to marry us… Tom from All Life's Milestones. So whatever else happens we'll be able to get married (as long as I don't forget the license) Below are some pictures from our scouting trip.
[EDIT] looks like Whitehern is booked so the search continues.
Some days I feel like we're planning our own castle onslaught. We have a million questions like: How do I find the Count? Once I do, how do I find you again? Once I find you again, how do I escape? The suppliers just roll their eyes and think "stop pestering me I've been mostly dead all day."